The SECRET to Embracing the Natural You

In the midst of the transitioning, the big chop, and all the other natural hair craziness, we can get lost and forget the most important thing about being natural… the enjoyment and fulfillment it brings. When we, as black women, make the decision to get out of our comfort zones, step away from what the world deems “beautiful,” and go natural, we are embracing a part of ourselves that has been hidden, and has finally been found and reestablished; we are taking back what has been lost and ultimately finding ourselves, once again; we are embracing the naturalness within. To me, being natural is not just about letting go of a relaxer. It is about stepping out of the box and doing something that truly represents your inner beauty. Being natural is about having an inner confidence that resonates on the outside. It is about taking that natural beauty and making it your own. It is about doing something that ultimately defines you

When going natural, we can oftentimes forget that we did it not for the world, not for our friends or family, but for US. We can easily let the world persuade us that naturalness is unattractive or abnormal, and as a result, we forget about us and focus on what the world is saying; thus, abandoning our naturalness. I can admit that becoming natural isn’t an easy decision to make. However, when one makes the decision to become natural, they have to make it with assurance in knowing that being natural is the way they want to go. Once that decision is made, embracing the natural YOU should be an everyday occurrence and not a once in a while thing.

For me, being natural is empowering. I love knowing that I was strong enough to make a change despite what society may deem beautiful. Since becoming natural, I have never felt the need to return to being relaxed. I may have my natural hair bad days where my curls don’t do what I want them to, but I deal with it and remember why I decided to become natural in the first place. Every day I wake up in the morning, undo my twist-out or braid-out, and look in the mirror at my fro, and I smile. Being natural for me has been an amazing experience and I will never look back. I love my natural beauty and I love the statement it makes. So, whether you have boisterous curls, kinky coils, long dreads, a TWA, or a huge fro, EMBRACE IT and love you, for you. Natural is beautiful; never forget that.


And that, my natural gals, is the  SECRET to embracing the natural YOU.


On the Hunt: Finding the Best Products for You!


Natural hair has become one of the biggest fads today. Yes, big fros, long dreads, and curly tresses are in. Even though natural hair has become so popular in the African-American community, not many people know exactly what it means to be natural. Being natural is both physical and spiritual.  Physically, being natural involves the cutting off of permed ends and reverting back to non-chemically treated hair. When hair is stripped of the chemicals used to make it straight, it reverts back to a naturally curly state; thus making it natural. Spiritually, going natural involves liberation and freedom from the status quo, or in other words, freedom from what society deems beautiful. The liberation and freedom several black women have found has made natural hair extremely common. Because of this, natural hair has not only been accepted by the African-American community, but is becoming more and more accepted by the world.

Even though so many black women are natural, they still have a hard time finding the right shampoos and conditioners that work best for their hair texture. Since a woman’s natural hair texture seems to change as her hair grows, it can be a hassle to find a shampoo or conditioner that works all the time, or at least most of the time. The good news is there are plenty of natural hair brands to choose from. The key to finding the right product is to first test a bunch of different products. I know, that may sound crazy, and expensive, but it is the surest way to figure out what works best for your hair. Going on this “product search” and trying out several different brands of shampoos and conditioners can easily turn a curly woman into a glorified product junkie; however, that may be a good thing. Trying out several different products and becoming a product junkie allows you to eliminate what definitely doesn’t work for your hair and what works wonders for it.

When shopping for a good shampoo, it is important to choose one that doesn’t have any sulfates. Sulfates can be very drying to the hair, and having dry hair is a no go for a natural woman. Choosing a conditioner, on the other hand, is a less strict process. Most of the conditioners sold today—especially the ones made specifically for natural hair—focus on providing and restoring moisture into the hair. The right conditioner for you will make your curls feel hydrated and soft. Here are a few conditioners and shampoos that can be a good start to your product search:

Whatever conditioner or shampoo you choose, remember it is a trial and error process. Don’t get discouraged if a product works for someone else and does not work for you. Just pick yourself up and continue on the hunt!